Zootopia

Recently, my husband and I went on a double date and saw the movie, Zootopia. The movie was really cute and funny. But I couldn't help but be somewhat critical about it. One positive message from the movie is that you can be independent and successful as a woman. The protagonist is a woman and she is able to accomplish her dreams. I love that she doesn't fall in love, and that she is never portrayed as chasing after a man like most other Disney movies. On the other hand, one thing I really disliked was their portrayals of the thin ideal in this movie. All the women animals were seen with "unrealistic" bodies and form-fitting clothing. I mean.. a bullet proof bra is not a realistic piece of attire, yet it was seen on the protagonist for most of the film. I found this aspect of the movie really sad. This messages of what women should look like are being slammed into young girl's minds all the time. And these are animals!! They don't need to be portrayed that way.. it's completely unnecessary.

Provo City Center Temple Dedication

Yesterday, I my husband and I went to our ward building to watch the broadcasted dedication of the Provo City Center Temple. This experience was one that opened my eyes to more benefits that come from the media. I am always so excited when I can see some positive influences of media because of all the negative that exists. Anyways, yesterday I was so amazed at how powerful this experience was and the Spirit that I felt just from watching a projector screen. I didn't have to be at the actual temple dedication, and I was still overwhelmed with the Spirit. That was only able to come about because of media. I am so grateful that I had the opportunity to take part in that beautiful ceremony. If media and technology didn't exist, that would't have been possible. Even though they may be harder to come across, there are definitely many benefits that come from the media. I am grateful that I have agency and can choose which pieces of the media I will participate in.

Audio Books

This past weekend, my little brother got baptized, and my husband and I were fortunate enough to be able to drive down to Coeur d' Alene, Idaho (our home town) to be there for this special event. We never get to do this in the middle of the semester because it is a 12 hour drive. So by the time you travel there and back, you've spent two days driving. But this last weekend, we both had our classes canceled Friday and were able to leave Thursday. Anyways, usually when we do this drive we occupy ourselves by talking, singing, sleeping, etc. But before we left this time, we quickly stopped by the library to get some audio books. Before this, I really hadn't had any experience with audio books, but I was pleasantly surprised by how much I liked them! We were able to "read" two books throughout the course of the drive. It was awesome! I think audio books are a great way to gain knowledge in pass time. Recently I head that a huge percentage of wealthy individuals listen to audio books during their commute to work each day vs a very small percentage of poor individuals. Very interesting. On the contrary, I did notice that the conversation between my husband and I was greatly diminished because we were so lost in the stories of these books. However, these audio books provided many good conversation pieces later when the books were over. The audio books also really helped us stay alert and awake for the entire drive- usually I really struggle with this. So all in all, I think audio books can definitely be a positive thing in my life, and I plan to implement them into my daily life from now on.

Miss Representation

I really enjoyed watching the Miss Representation documentary in class this past week. I liked it so much that I made my husband watch it with me later that night, haha. I just want to mention a couple things that particularly stood out to me.

One of the main themes that resounded with me is that the media has the potential to dissemble us. If we let it, we can be consumed with body appearances and that can effect several other aspects of our lives.  Personally, I have felt defeated in some cases after experience with media and women's appearances. I get to thinking that if I don't look exactly like the models portrayed- the women that everyone wants to be- then I am some how less valuable. Instead of thinking rationally, I let myself sit and think about this and continue to participate in the same media that has made me feel so small. It's this weird obsession. And I have noticed the damage it's done in my life. I see myself as a small person, one that is a follower rather than a leader. The statistics for how few women are in politics and positions of power resounded with me as I thought about my own tendencies. It seems so likely that women are less prevalent in these positions because of the disempowerment they feel from today's culture and the media.

The other theme that was present was the tendency for women to judge harshly other women. One of the speakers from the documentary mentioned how people are so quick to focus on the outside appearances of women before they actually start to focus on what they are saying. This feels so true to me. Whenever a women is standing in front of me speaking, my eyes and thoughts immediately analyze the details of their appearance- their hair, their jewelry, their clothing, the SHOES. Only then, can I truly listen to the message. And even still, I am frequently draw to aspects of her appearance throughout her time of speaking. This makes me so sad. I dont want people focusing on my appearance. I want people to hear me. I think that's what most women want. I really need to be a better supporter and example of this by listening to those around me and rejected the tendency to focus on "looks."

The last thing this documentary made me think about, is the type of mother I want to be. Growing up, my mother was always concerned with her appearance. She always made comments about certain parts of her body that she didn't like. There were plenty of mornings that I watched her cry while getting ready in the mornings. I truly believe that this is one of the reasons I struggle with my appearance. I never want my daughter to feel this way. I want her to love herself the way I will love her. I want her to see the reflection that God will see. I know if I want this, I need to make some big changes today.

Choose to see a wish, rather than a weed.

Video Games

I have never been a one to play video games. Growing up, we had a wii and sometime I would watch my brothers play games, but I never got into them myself. They just never seemed to interest me like other forms of media. Well recently, my husband and I got a ps3. We got it after the lecture on video games, so I, of course, had some hesitations and laid out some ground rules. We both decided we never wanted sexual or violent games in our home. Soon after getting the game system, we headed to Game Stop to purchase our first game. I was pretty disappointed that there weren't a whole lot of games to choose from that fit out guidelines. That was kinda sad to me, but it also makes sense- violence and sex sell.  Eventually, in the used game section, we found one that sparked our interest: Lego Harry Potter. I'm guessing someone had sold back this game because it wasn't exciting enough? as in.. it literally has no sexual themes and no violence (other than casting spells).

When we got home, we decided to try this game out. We sat down on the couch together and played for about an hour. Much to my surprise, it was so much fun to play this game with my husband. The game involves a lot of looking around for small clues and trying to figure out what you are supposed to accomplish in order to move on. It felt good to work as a team and progress through the levels. After playing, I felt closer to my husband- as nerdy or weird as that might sound haha. I can relate to the study done on brothers and sisters playing together and having less contention afterwards.

This being said, while at first I was skeptical, I now see a place for video games in our family- as long as they have good themes and encourage the bonding my husband and I felt. I guess it goes to show, don't knock it til you try it.

Grateful for Txts

Lately, I have been very skeptical about the positive things about media.. if you couldn't tell from my last post. Well, this week I was reminded of the wonderful things that can come of media.

My cousins, Ashley and Lauren, are basically sisters to me. We are so close and love love love spending any time we can together. Unfortunately, we don't get to see each other too often. However, because of the constant group message between us three, we are able to stay updated with each other's lives. This past week, my cousins asked why I decided to delete my Facebook. I shared with them how I felt about it, and also shared some personal feelings about my insecurities. Within 2 minutes, my phone was exploding with prosocial txts from my cousins. Here are a couple of their txts:

Ashley: "You're gorgeous inside and out my sister! But I totally understand where you are coming from."

Lauren: "You are so naturally beautiful and have such an amazing body without even trying! Even without makeup you are stunning. Compare yourself to yourself only. Who you were yesterday and who you are tomorrow are the only people who matter."

Immediately, my spirits lifted and I felt so loved. What sweet things they chose to say. It warms my heart to read them over again. How grateful I am to be able to communicate so readily with people who use technology to uplift others. I am so lucky to be a recipient of other's kindness, and I am grateful that I can have the opportunity to do the same for others when I can't always talk to someone in person. I am blessed!

Why I Deleted My Facebook

After attending Marion Underwood's lecture, I went home and deleted my Facebook. I had been thinking of doing this since the start of the semester, but something she mentioned gave me the final push to do it. 

If you remember the study on 13 year olds, you might remember some of the findings. Marion mentioned that many of the teens had experienced emotional distress from social media due to feeling socially excluded and social comparison. Not only this, but there is a correlation between media use and depression. She also shared a story about a girl that committed suicide after months of comparing herself to others through Instagram. 

Something clicked in me, and I realized that for the past year, I have been feeling emotionally distressed every time I check Facebook. There was very little positive and too much negative coming into my life due to Facebook. And I realized how sick I was of it. How sick I was of seeing everyone's "glamorous" lives. Sick of seeing everyone only post things about themselves. Before deleting my account, I did a little experiment and scrolled through my feed for five minutes. In that time, I counted any posts that were uplifting and not, in any way, selfish. I could only find one. All the others were things like: "Made this dinner for my beautiful family tonight" (with a picture of a Pinterest worthy meal) or "My husband just randomly came home with this necklace for me. Im so blessed" or "Our one year anniversary! He treats me like a princess. I have a giddy, perfect life!" (with a picture of the couple). Not to mention all the selfies I saw in that short time. I just finally came to the conclusion that the posts I see don't make me feel good about myself. They only motivate me to get that "perfect picture" or make the "perfect dinner" and post about myself. As if I need to keep up with everyone else in the competition for "Best all around person in the world." 

When I first made my Facebook, I remember that much of the posts were good. They were about others. Or about important news that relatives and friends would be interested in hearing. But lately, its been a lot less of those posts, and a lot more of the self-indulged posts. And it's very sad to me. Its sad for me to look at the way I think now. When I go places, I want to take pictures. When I do something great, I want to post about it. Not to mention, I secretly always want my husband to post something sweet about me. It's just ridiculous. And I've decided that I want a change. I want to change. And I feel deleting my Facebook will be a good step in the right direction. 

Since deleting my Facebook on Thursday, I have not once regretted it. It feels like a weight lifted off my shoulders. It's been nice. Im done ranting now. I'll close with two quotes that also inspired me to delete Facebook:

"You won't inspire your teammates by showing them how great you are. You inspire them by showing them how great they are."

"If you want to give light to others, you have to glow yourself" -Thomas S. Monson